On this day May 28th the following events happened:
- 1968 Kylie Minogue was born;
- 1985 Cyclone hit Bangladesh;
- 2014 Maya Angelou passed away;
- 1871 Paris commune collapsed after two-month siege after encountering troops;
- 1891 The first world weightlifting championships are held in London;
- 1937 Alfred Adler the Austrian psychiatrist died;
- 1940 The Belgium army surrenders to the Nazis;
- 1908 Ian Fleming the James Bond Novelist is born;
- 1972 The Duke of Windsor who abdicated his throne to marry American Divorcee Wallis Simpson dies in Paris;
- 1932 The Dutch created the biggest Dam today claiming victory in the 800-year battle to push back the sea;
- 1987 A west German teenager prank caused worldwide mirth today as seriously embarrassed Soviet Union Mathias Rust flew his light Cessna plane from Helsinki to Moscow;
Last year during International Day of Persons with Disabilities we had a talk from Genius Within and they talked about the theory of Social Energy.
Basically, it is like the Spoon Theory for Lupus. We all have social energy tanks. Those who are Neuro-Typical have larger tanks than Neuro Diverse people. This is the key thing to know. Now like the spoon theory every action that we do takes away from your social energy tank. The problem is is that when someone who is neurodiverse who has a smaller tank thing gets drained a lot quicker than a neurotypical person.
Unlike the Spoon theory, however, we can refill our tanks. The idea is that if someone who is neuro diverse’s tank dips below 30% then we are likely to be in a meltdown mode. So with your social energy, it is very important to know where you are at and how you refill your tank.
For me, to refill my tank when I am at work, I go to the coffee shop and speak with the staff there. I find the break from work and what is draining my energy is a way to refill. When I goto my coffee shop I can be a little crazy and let out stresses. When I then return to work I find that I have avoided a meltdown. For me when I am in meltdown mode I know that I go very quiet and you can’t talk to me and I won’t talk to anyone. So to avoid this I keep an eye on my energy levels.
The other aspect of this is the fact that you need to find your safe space to do it. I know one person who stands in a closet. Others go and sit on a bench doing nothing but people watch. It is your safe space to find it.
Since learning this theory my team at work and I use it a lot. They ask me what my number is at when I need a break. This helps me focus on my own needs. I think that you all need to work on this to see if it can help you try and avoid your meltdown phases.