Let’s Talk About Dementia

Dementia is a vile, evil ilness which is known as the Long Goodbye. It is something that takes you away piece by piece until there is nothing left except a shell waiting to die.

My father also has dementia. 

Over the last few years, I have seen this vile illness strip away pieces of my dad. He went from being an unhealthy person who went out, met people and enjoyed music to someone who it is a struggle to even get out of bed in the morning. A huge turning point for us was when he lost his drivers license. That was a lifeline for him and it was taken away.

It’s not all doom and gloom though. Last night I got to see my dad do something I hadn’t seen him do in years. That is, pick up a guitar. Now you may think that this is something minor however, my dad is a musical man. He could have gone all the way. The man could recite songs on his guitar without music or anything else. He was a musical genius. But with the illness, he doesn’t play anymore. So to see him pick up a guitar honestly I felt like crying tears of joy. The glee in his eyes and the joy in my hear made me want to cry my eyes out. I did manage to hold it in till I was not with him but honestly cried like a baby.

So enjoy the time you have with the loved ones you have because honestly this illness can break your heart x

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I’m not Crazy, I am depressed

 

For me, this worked wonders. I found that if I was able to make light of the situation I found myself regarding my mental health then people around me would feel a lot easier about talking to me about it.

My way is not the best way may be to take the stigma out of Mental Health but for me, it works. I have always been known as somewhat of a fruitloop doing things because I wanted to do them, even if it was not what was expected of me. Take my Thank You Campaign, I do it because I want all people who serve in some form of uniform to know that there is at least one person out there who supports them. This is not seen as the norm but I don’t care, it makes me feel good and therefore I do it…

Each person’s mental health issues are unique to them to find a way that is suitable for you to broach that subject.

 

To the Royal Australian Navy

This blog post I am going to dedicate to the Royal Australian Navy.

To the brave men and women who serve in the Royal Australian Navy, I would like to say #ThankYouForYourService . Words can’t express the gratitude I have for you doing the job that you do. When a military person falls in battle they go down quickly, however, as seen in Pearl Harbour, if a Navy ship goes down potentially people can die slowly and drown maybe never to be recovered. You brave men and women face the sea in all her glory and scariness and do so with the utmost professionalism and pride. So once again to you I say #ThankYouForYourService and to all those who paid the ultimate price, #ThankYouForYourSacrifice and lastly to the families of those who serve, #ThankYouForYourService.

My Thank You Campaign

So, here I am once again discussing my Thank You Campaign, and why I feel it is important.

Today I will look at London Firebrigade and more specifically their role in an absolute tragedy that rocked my community. That tragedy is the Grenfell Tower Fire 14 June 2017.

Everyone went to bed on 13 June 2017 thinking about what they needed to do the next day. Kids thinking about school, parents thinking about work and firefighters thinking about what may happen on their shift. Little did they know that in a few short hours the world would change forever.

Grenfell 1This was the scene in the early hours of the morning on the 14th June 2017. There are videos of firefighters who were attending the scene who said “FUCK” when they saw the blaze. It was so massive that you could see it for miles around and yet they still went in.

Now you can say what you want, it was their job, they had to go in to do it. The honest answer is they didn’t. They could have stood down. They could have said there is no way that anyone is surviving this. They went in. The Gods honest truth is that these men and women who work for the London Firebrigade went into a burning building to fight a fire they had never seen before to rescue as many people as they possibly could and work tirelessly through to the bitter end. Even when they knew that they would not find any more survivors they still went in.  Could you do this?

Grenfell 2

Could you have gone into this building willingly knowing that it could collapse on you, or you could lose your life? My own health issues aside, I wish I would have the bravery that these people have but honestly I don’t think I could.

These, however, are the brave men and women who attended the scene. Who cried with our community,  who slept outside so that they could go back in again. They stayed until the very bitter end when it was no longer search and rescue but recovery.

These are the same people who, some of, ran the London Marathon in full gear to raise money for the survivors. This was not just a “Shout” to these brave men and women, no, it was a life changing event the likes of which I pray never is seen again.

So to the London Fire Brigade. I say Thank You For Your Service and I hope that I will be able to get enough money to suitably pay tribute to those who risked it all for a small community in North Kensington. If anyone wants to help my cause please donate on the link below.

https://www.gofundme.com/544xm-thank-you-for-your-service

Mental Health

This morning I would like to take a moment to talk about mental health and how it can affect many people.

Since 2007 I have been dealing with depression. It is caused by the brain either refusing to or seriously reducing the amount of serotonin it produces. Basically, this means a chemical imbalance in the brain.

Since my diagnosis, I have noticed that the stigma around mental health is rampant. People feel too afraid to tell people they have mental health problems for fear of what might happen. I have experienced myself the downside to disclosing mental health problems to employers who went from treating me like everyone else to treating me like a piece of glass that could break at any moment.

Until such time as it becomes more acceptable to have mental health problems, the stigma will continue. One way for this to happen is for more people to take the stance of “so what, I have mental health issues, who cares” and be as open as they can be. The more people who stand up and openly say they have issues will make the world see that we are not a minority and that it does not discriminate.

A baby step that people can take, put it in your bio on social media. This is something that means that everyone will see without you having to say to each person

I am just one person

I am just one person in this crazy world. I am just one person who has had the world collapse on her numerous times and still wakes up every morning trying to find a way to make the world a nicer and fluffier place to live in.

I have am a survivor of abuse:

Diagnosed as dyslexic at 16:

Diagnosed with depression at 21:

Diagnosed with spinal problems at 29:

Diagnosed as Autistic at 32:

But do I let the above get me down? No of course I dont. I will share my pain and sorrows as well as my joys and successes with the world.

One thing however, that  I am doing, which I would like you all to know about is my Thank You Campaign.

For the last two years I have been doing this on my own with no help from anyone. It has been a very fruitful journey but I am now looking for help to continue.

I have been using my own money to support American Service Personnell who are deployed over seas. I have created goodie bags for those who work Christmas Eve and Christmas Day in uniform and I write letters and Social Media posts Thanking people for their service. I will keep doing this until there is no money left to use but if you are able to help and support me in my work then please visit https://www.gofundme.com/544xm-thank-you-for-your-service and donate so that I can continue to help support and show appreciation to those in uniform who serve and protect us 🙂

I am just one person, who is now asking for help

Why do I say Thank You?

Today I was asked why do I say thank you to uniformed services, they are just doing their job.


Well, the answer is honestly because they deserve it. They did not have to take a job where they could potentially lose their lives protecting other, they did not have to take a job where their families could end up struggling due to injury or death but they did. 


People need to remember that they do the job so that we who can’t, or those, who do not want to, are made to do it. If the brave men and women of the military, police, fire departments, paramedics, doctors, nurses or lifeguard did not do the job who would? Me personally I am an Autistic, Dyslexic, who has depression and has spinal problems so I know I would not be able to do it. So that is why I do it.


Ever wondered why there is not National Service in some countries, or why the Draft has not been re-enacted? Well, ladies and gents it is because there are enough brave men and women who do the jobs to keep us safe and I for 1 am thankful every day for these people.