Reading – Important for Autistics and Dyslexic

So, something I have come to learn is that my Autism can help my dyslexia. As a dyslexic I really struggle to read books.  I find it very hard to get into a book and as such I live by the rule, if the 1st chapter does not capture me then I do not read the rest. Why struggle with a book that could take you over a year to read when you have no interest in it.

Since my Autism diagnosis I have been thinking about my special interests which are:

  • True Crime; – specialists in serial killers and profiling
  • Super Natural
  • Mythologies
  • War
  • Native Americans

As such, I am focussing on reading books around my special interests. Whilst, some of them I would consider the short end of the stick in having I find that focussing on these areas with the books helps keep me interested in what I am reading.

My autism is helping my dyslexia. You have heard of disabilities affecting each other negatively however, in this instance, it is a very helpful and beneficial impact.

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“You must be dyslexic, you can’t spell”

I have spoken a lot recently about my autism and the struggles I have with it and the challenges I still face. Today, however, I would like to talk about dyslexia. I was diagnosed as dyslexic in 2002 when I was 16. This was a good 16 years ago. Hopefully, that will give you an idea as to how old I am.

One thing I have noticed is that it is something that some people still live in the archaic times when being dyslexic was akin to being dumb or illiterate. This view is something that I have found is seriously dwindling thankfully. Just because you are dyslexic, it does not mean that you are illiterate or that you are dumb. In fact, one of the most famous people in history was dyslexic, Albert Einstein.

If you are dyslexic, do not let people badge you in a negative light. Let your dyslexia be your superpower and you can do anything you would like to do if you put your mind to it. It may take a little longer than some but you can do it none the less.

Call to action

I need help. I have finally realised something about the housing process and I need help. I will be sending a letter with an application form to Westminster Council asking for help to get onto the housing register. They rejected me once, but due to my autism and having no help or support to fill the form out I did not completely and amply explain my situation. I am hoping this will make them reconsider. But I need your help. I am calling on every Christian, Muslim, Seik, Jew, Rich, Poor, Black, White, Asian, American, Arab, Brit, Aussie, and everyone else who falls into these categories to help me. I need to find somewhere to live that is suitable. I need my own space which is affordable and that will accept animals as I want to get a service dog to help me.

When Westminster rejected me they sent me a letter I never even received. They also were going to email me the letter which again I never received. I had to call up to find out that I had been rejected. The London Borough of Westminster have at least sent me the application form. The Royal Borough of Kensington and Chelsea havent even done this. I get given the run around all the time being told one thing from one person and another thing from someone else. I need help and this is my final straw.

This is the letter I am sending.

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Dear Sirs,

 

LETTER OF EXPLAINATION

 

I am writing this letter as a back up to my application as I find that the application does not have enough space to capture everything you need to take into consideration.

 

I am an Autistic adult who currently resides in the borough of Kensington and Chelsea.

 

I need to move out and into my own place however, I am unable to afford a suitable living space for me in the private rented sector of housing. This is due to the fact the following facts:

 

  1. Having lived in shared accommodation before (prior to my autism diagnosis) and the negative experiences I had from it, I am not able to be in a shared living situation with people who are not my own family. Therefore, this is really not something that I can do.
  2. Due to my autism, I can not face sharing toilets with people and feel compelled to clean them should anyone else use them which is once again not a suitable solution.
  3. The private rented sector is far to expensive for me as I could at most, afford £700 per calendar month (without bills included) and outside of house shares this is almost impossible to find. Because of my salary, I earn to much to get housing benefits but not enough to rent somewhere my own.
  4. Due to having difficulties on the underground, I am looking at the possibility of getting a service dog to support me both for my autism, and for my physical disabilities. Most house shares and privately rented flats will not accept animals, I have been making inquiries and this is what I am being told.

The flat I am currently in is rented by my parents through Peabody and I am only an occupant to my parent’s tenancy and as such Peabodies have said they can not and will not help rehome me as I am not their direct tenant.

 

My conditions are:

 

  1. Autism (ASD)
  2. Dyslexia
  3. Depression
  4. Spinal problems – Scoliosis

 

The flat I currently reside in is increasingly getting more difficult for me to be in for numerous reasons which are:

 

  1. One of my neighbors has been terrorizing women on this estate which last year lead me to make a police report. Unfortunately, due to my lack of understanding of what I could and could not do to support me, I did not take it forward and spent the better part of 2018 in fear of what might happen. This lead to me having full-blown panic attacks around when I saw him. This leads me into therapy which was conducted at St Charles Hospital with the Community Living Well Team. Whilst I have been discharged from their care as I have reached my maximum number of the session it is something I still have to work on solo now which can be good or bad.

 

This neighbor has since my incident with him in May 2018 has continued his concerning behavior which culminated in him attacking and assaulting another tenant. Even though he is laying low, I am always in fear of what he may do when he believes the heat has cooled off of him. The issues with this neighbor have caused serious problems with my depression to the extent for a long time I would avoid leaving the flat at all just because I was afraid to see him. Because I had avoided leaving the flat for long periods of time I would have a lot of trouble with my own self-care, forgetting to shower, clean my teeth or even get out of bed.

 

  1. There is another tenant here who has a serious drug problem and allows all sorts of people use her flat. This has caused serious concerns for me and my anxiety and depression. The misery this woman has caused has affected me quite dramatically.

 

  1. Because of my spinal problems living on the first floor is difficult. My parents flat is so big that I can get pain just walking from one end to the other. I have had some adoptions by social services but that does not help with the pain I get just walking the length of the flat.

 

  1. The stairs in the block are something I have difficulty with due to hypermobile knees and so if I have to walk down the stairs (when the lift is out) I risk collapsing at the bottom which in turn means if the lift is out I stay indoors. This can affect my depression on a large scale.

 

  1. The distance from the entrance of the block to the gate is quite a distance and uphill that I regularly have to stop and sit down or I will end up in tears by the time I get to the gate. I have spoken to RBKC Social Services and they have said that because the Block stairs are narrow and communal areas they can’t provide any form of adaption for it I am just stuck with it. They have also said that because the main part to the gate is also a driveway there is nothing they would be able to suggest anything that could help.

 

  1. I also have an ex-boyfriend who has shown some concerning behavior which I have now had to make a police report just in case he turns up at my front door. He, the ex-boyfriend was emotionally abusive and caused me great distress including a depressive episode. I really do not want to be living here where he knows where I live.

 

Living here is affecting me on all scales which my support worker thinks has contributed to some of my recent meltdowns (which are linked to my autism). These meltdowns have also had a physical effect on my body which also takes me a few days to recover from.

 

I am desperate for help and somewhere to live where I feel safe and I can have the things I need to live independently. I need to be put onto the register so that I can get somewhere to live.

 

Kind regards

 

Yours Faithfully


Help me by sharing this with anyone you know and help me get action taken so that I will finally be put on the housing register and rehomed somewhere I can afford so I no longer have to beg for help on gofundme to help me move outside of London. I need help. Help me keep my dignity

IM DESPERATE FOR HELP

Once again I am asking the world for help. It is really not nice for me asking for help because honestly, I am usually the one giving it. So here is why you should help me on gofundme by either donating or sharing my link.

Why I need the money:

I need to move to keep myself safe from an ex who was and if allowed to continue to be emotionally abusive. He is a man who continued to treat me as something he could pick up and drop at the flip of a coin. He messed with my head so much that even now I struggle to believe I am worth someone good. I can’t change where I work but I can change where I live and this money would go towards helping me move somewhere safe and still be able to afford to get to work etc.

Why Should you help me:

I am a good person. You may think yea yea we hear this a lot but I am.

Even though I could, I work despite my disabilities and mentor people who have the same disabilities as me so that they can be confident to work as well.

I started my own campaign to make sure men and women who serve and protect communities, cities, and countries know that they are appreciated for all they do.

I volunteer with a military charity and write to active service men and women who are stationed away from home to help keep their morale up.

I help anyone in need. Recently been supporting a neighbor who has been going through hell with someone who was causing her serious stress and putting her in danger. I helped someone else out of a bad domestic abuse situation including making sure she was safe when she didn’t feel it.

I have never asked for praise for anything I do because I don’t do it for praise but for the fact that I want to make the world a nicer place to live.

So what now?

Please donate to my go fund me page: https://www.gofundme.com/4t77nm-my-first-home I really need your help. If you can’t afford to donate, please share my link. I am getting desperate. I need to move.

I am an Autistic with dyslexia, depression and spinal problems living in a situation where I want to cry almost daily and jump at any noise I hear when traveling. Please help me.

Being Different is not BAD

One thing I needed to get myself together to understand what it is that is “wrong” with me. However, it was not till I understood that there is nothing wrong with me I am just different to everyone else around me.

I get very emotional over some things. That isn’t bad, it just means that I can get really sad. The thing that I am sad most about is when I see an animal who gets killed in the middle of the street. It doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with me. It means my mind deals with this kind of things differently. Same for TV shows. There are certain episodes of shows that I can not ever watch again because they make me so sad that I cry. The logic side of my brain knows that its fiction but I just can’t deal with what is being shown, example, the episode in Criminal Minds where Hotch’s ex-wife is killed by the Reaper… I can NEVER watch that episode ever again.

I have uber senses (if only my eyesight was one of them). It’s not bad, it just means I avoid situations where I am likely to be affected… It’s not bad, just means that I am different.

Differences make you who you are and that is something that we all need to accept. If we were all the same, we would not have the breakthroughs that we have in art, science, music and many other things… If we were, all the same, we may as well be wearing gray jumpsuits and all have numbers instead of names.

My Autistic Super Power – Hearing

Since my Autism Diagnosis, I have been doing as much research as I can possibly do and honestly, one of my superpowers is my hearing.

It is something I am proud of. Even though I can’t handle really loud sounds for example if someone has the television up too loud, I can hear things like both sides of a telephone conversation from another room. I am proud of this fact. It is something that is special to me and I take great pride in it.

This autistic person has a superpower! Like with my Dyslexia I choose to consider my differences as superpowers. It means that I feel less like an oddball and more like someone who has special talents.

Strange Year

It has been a strange year for me in 2018 what with the new equipment I have at work to help with my dyslexia and the support that I get from my colleagues over my autism which I only found out about this year it has been a strange one. I am going to look forward to a year of discovery of me.