I have been asked what would I do if I won or was given £1,000,000.
Firstly £150,000 would be split 3 ways between my mum, my ex’s mum, and my exs dad. Sounds weird but they did a lot for me and my ex when we were together so I would give them that money free and clear.
Secondly, if my dad was still alive, I would give another £50,000 to my mum for home care support of her choosing.
That takes me up to £200,000.
Thirdly, I would pay off any and all debts that I had so I was financially free and clear.
Fourth, I would complete my dream of owning my dream home. So I would buy a plot of land and have my dream home built on it. It would be energy efficient and good for the environment. It would have a number of rooms so that I could apply to be a foster parent.
I recon that would take up at least another £400,000. So now we are at £600,000.
I would then out money into a savings account for my niece and nephew and any further kids my sister may have. If the interest was good etc hopefully they would not need to worry about the cost of student loans when they turned 18.
Essentially if I was given or won £1,000,000 very little of it would go to me. The rest would go to people who deserve it and to help me help others.
What would you do?
So as most of you know on June 29 2019 I moved into my very first proper flat. I am living on my own for the very first time. This was a very tough decision for me but for my personal safety and my mental wellbeing I needed to not be with my parents full time.
As of September 29, I will have made it exactly 3 months semi on my own. I say semi on my own because I still have to work in London so I still stay with parents when I am there. However, I try to be in my second home more then I am in London. This varies week to week due to the needs of my mum and dad as I am still my dad’s secondary carer.
So some tips I can give you for moving into a new property as an Autistic person;
- Make a list of all the things that you need to do i.e. register council tax, change your benefit address, etc.
- For key things make sure you have them from the get-go (why not try buying them in advance so that when it comes to moving you already have it)
- Temporary furniture such as blow-up sofas are very handy
- Start working out your routine from day one. Which days are going to be your cleaning days, which days are going to be your chill days. If you have to travel for work which days are best for you. All these things work out nicely.
- If you are in receipt of disability benefits and your new place includes train travel apply for your Disabled person’s railcard. (money saver)
- If you work, take 2 weeks off as holiday so that you have the time to acclimatize to the area.
- Have back up plans in place in case you need them. Mine is that my mum is going to keep me on the tenancy so that I have a room should the shit hit the fan!.
Remember as autistic people we don’t do well with change, however, the more planning and preparation you put into it we can minimize the stress that comes with moving.